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Writer's pictureSophia Khan

Understanding Betrayal Trauma: Navigating the Path to Healing

Updated: Aug 7

What is Betrayal Trauma?


Betrayal trauma occurs when someone you deeply depend on for support and safety betrays your trust in a significant way. This form of trauma can arise in various relationships and often leaves deep psychological scars. Betrayal trauma can be particularly devastating because it involves a breach of trust from a close connection, making it difficult to reconcile the sense of security you once had.


Types of Betrayal Trauma


Betrayal trauma can manifest in different contexts, including:


  • Infidelity: Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful can shatter the foundation of a relationship, causing intense emotional pain and distrust.

  • Family Betrayal: Betrayal by family members, such as parents, siblings, or extended relatives, can lead to a profound sense of loss and isolation.


  • Friends: Being betrayed by close friends can result in feelings of abandonment and confusion, especially when these friendships were a significant source of emotional support.


  • Partners of Those with Sex or Pornography Addiction: Learning that a partner has been hiding an addiction can create a sense of betrayal, leading to feelings of inadequacy, shame, and deep emotional pain.


Symptoms of Betrayal Trauma


The symptoms of betrayal trauma can closely align with those of PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) and C-PTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder), including:


  • Intrusive Thoughts: Persistent, unwanted memories of the betrayal.

  • Hypervigilance: A heightened state of alertness and anxiety, constantly expecting further betrayal or harm.


  • Emotional Numbing: A sense of detachment or emotional numbness to avoid further pain.


  • Flashbacks: Reliving the moment of betrayal, often triggered by reminders.


  • Avoidance: Steering clear of places, people, or situations that evoke memories of the betrayal.


  • Mood Swings: Intense and unpredictable emotions, ranging from anger and sadness to confusion and hopelessness.


  • Self-Blame: Feeling responsible for the betrayal or questioning one's worthiness.


Treatment for Betrayal Trauma


Healing from betrayal trauma often requires professional help and a multifaceted approach, including:


  • Therapy: Engaging in therapy with a specialist who understands betrayal trauma is crucial. Techniques such as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Somatic Experiencing (SE) can be highly effective.


  • Support Groups: Joining support groups can provide a sense of community and understanding from others who have experienced similar betrayals.


  • Self-Care: Prioritizing self-care practices like mindfulness, meditation, movement, and hobbies can help in managing symptoms and promoting emotional well-being.


  • Journaling: Writing about your feelings and experiences can be a therapeutic way to process emotions and track your healing progress.


Recovery and Healing


Recovery from betrayal trauma is a gradual and non-linear process. It involves rebuilding trust, not only in others but also in oneself. Healing can look like:


  • Building Self-Trust: Learning to trust in yourself, in your own judgment, and in your ability to handle the future.


  • Setting Boundaries: Establishing healthy boundaries to protect yourself and foster respectful relationships.


  • Reconnecting with Emotions: Allowing yourself to feel and express emotions without fear or shame.


  • Building Resilience: Developing healthy coping skills and resilience to handle future challenges.

The Importance of Finding a Specialist


Finding a therapist who specializes in betrayal trauma is crucial for effective healing. A specialist will have the knowledge and experience to address the unique aspects of betrayal trauma, providing tailored strategies to help you navigate your recovery journey. They can offer a safe and supportive environment to explore your feelings, rebuild trust, and develop healthy coping skills.


Conclusion


Betrayal trauma is a profound and painful experience that can disrupt your sense of security and trust. However, with the right support and therapeutic interventions, healing and recovery are possible. By understanding the nature of betrayal trauma, recognizing its symptoms, and seeking specialized help, you can embark on a journey toward healing and reclaim your sense of self. Remember, you don't have to navigate this path alone—professional help and support are available to guide you through this challenging time.


If you're ready to embark on this journey, consider reaching out to a Betrayal Trauma therapist to support you along the way.


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About the Author


Sophia is a trauma therapist, a dietitian, and most importantly, a fellow human navigating the complexities of the human experience. She holds both a Bachelor of Science in Nutrition and a Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology. She is deeply passionate about walking alongside clients looking to heal from various forms of trauma, such as complex trauma (including C-PTSD), betrayal trauma, relationship trauma, childhood trauma, parental trauma, narcissistic abuse, and/or intergenerational trauma. She specializes in supporting clients through healing the impacts that trauma can have on their most important relationships: including their relationship with self, with others, with their body, and with food. She draws from numerous trauma-focused modalities including EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic and Mindfulness-Based Approaches, Attachment Theory, Polyvagal Theory, and Psychodynamic Therapy.

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